Tuesday, 5 April 2011

private or public

me in 2003

so today i was looking through old photos of my life, my task was to find one that provoked or represented an amazing day in my life.  i wasn't unhappy about this as i just love looking through pictures and the memories they evoke, who doesn't right?!  i was drawn to this picture because it really made me smile and represents a really fun time in my life, i won't go as far to call it amazing but i was young, free, and full of enthusiasm for life.  seeing this shot made me feel really inspired to think about how life has changed, but instead i started to think all the people in my life.  i am so lucky to have amazing friends and family and they support me with all aspects of my life.  but i i have a secret: i don't share my blog with them.....


my friends are so important to me but sometimes i wonder if they 'get' my blogging and creative adventures.  i mean of course they know i write in journals or scrapbook, i sew, and knit and crochet, they kinda see me with my camera or my phone in my hand all the time but they probably don't realise how deep my geekiness is rooted!  I sometimes let it show very casually and they may raise their eyebrows at me but i am the master of disguise!  i am of course not at all suggesting that i am not my authentic self around them, far from it, but we all have different sides of our personality on display at different times, we are in essence continually updating the world about ourselves as social networking is the norm now so why would blogging shock them?  i guess to the average non blogger this platform of sharing information may seem quite indulgent.


i can remember my first negative comment on my old blog back in 2007.  it went along the lines of 'all you talk about is yourself you trumped up &^%$£' ouch! i won't lie, it did hurt.  i can remember thinking to myself that essentially is what blogging is all about, shairng stories about your life.  it did put me off a little bit but then i thought to myself, hang on this is my life, my blog, and i will say whatever the heck i want, if you don't like it click the close button and don't come back!  i am sure we have all encountered negativity, i guess putting yourself out there is making you vulnerable.


i am just not sure i am ready for my friends to read my blog.  i am not suggesting that they will be mean or negative but it is scary, what if they find it self indulgent nonsense? or a waste of time? will they care my cat looked cute yesterday or i like pretty dresses? i am not sure...


so i am putting it out there, do you blog privately or do your real life friends read it? have you got some positive stories to tell? i am really interested.


PS thank you for all the awesome comments from my fellow BFS i am slowly getting thorough all the posts/blogs there are a few hundred tho so eeekkk!


8 comments :

  1. I totally get what you are saying about how your friends may not appreciate your desire to craft or blog. I wish my friends showed more interest in my creative side. I guess that is why we have our blogs - to share with those who really do 'get' it.

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  2. It is hard to expose yourself to people who might not understand. That is why the BFS class is so good. :) I only have one friend who reads my blog... but then again, I don't really have a ton of friends. But I don't have family reading it... not because I hide it, but I just don't offer it up. It is an interesting dilemma. I hope your friends will "get it" now that there are more people out there blogging and using other social networks. :) Sorry... I wasn't much help.

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  3. I'm the same! When I told my sister I had a blog, she called me a geek! After that reaction I didn't tell my friends. So only Steve, my bloggy friends and my cousin know (my cousin has a blog too).

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  4. My family follows my blog but I have not told most of my friends about it so I totally get what you are saying and thanks for airing this issue

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  5. I like the way you think! This is another fascinating post..my friends aren't the slightest bit interested in my blog and, out of my family, my brother is the one who reads most often.

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  6. i let everyone read and im never sharing personal details. That was an executive decision when i started blogging because there are people out there that i dont want to know any part of my personal life!

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  7. My blog is public< iahbe family members and friends that read it but I don't they check it on a regular basis. Well, amybe a few do, when I post it shows on my Facebook wall and some people have told me they love that because it takes care of checking for updates for them. Sometimes I wish I didn't have anyone in my real life reading or sometimes it's certain people I wouldn't want to see it. There are things I want to share or show that I don't want them to see so I just push it aside. I was very, very sad when my youngest son's girlfriend of three years broke up with him but I couln't express that on my blog.

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  8. my friends & family have known about my blog from the beginning because I originally started it to document a road trip :)

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